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kittu

Salam Alaikum

I'm a Muslim male intending to marry a Moroccan girl. I've visited Morocco too to meet her and her family.

We met on the internet and after 4 months of contact, I visited her last month.

We're not yet "officially" engaged but like each other overall.

Can someone from Morocco please tell me something more about Moroccan girls and their cultural norms.

I mean what is it that they expect from their fiances, whats considered acceptable, whats recommended, whats not accepted and 3yeb etc.

Is it natural in Moroccan culture for females to *ask* for money/gifts from their fiance's?

What are your cultural norms regarding the guy spending on the girl. Its not that I don't like to spend, but I just want to be sure its a Moroccan cultural norm and is natural there, coz for me thats just very odd for a girl to *ask* a guy for money/gifts before marriage, even if she is engaged to him.

Actually I love spending money and gifting friends and family and my intentions with her are no different. Just that I find it strange that I haven't had the chance to do by myself, except for the sweets and chocolates that I bought for her when I visited her house for the first time.

Is it maybe coz girls like to show off their gifts to their friends? Or is it just coz its natural and she thinks I might not be aware of the culture of gifting in Arabs, so shes just helping me along? Is it coz she's become overly attached and is already "treating" me like a husband?

Any help from any Moroccans will be much appreciated.
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Jamal09

Salaam Alaykom

Well it depends, in Morocco like everywhere else there are women who do want and do ask for gifts before marriage and there are those who do not. Trust should come before any gifts and presents. My fiancé has never asked for anything although i have bought her a few gifts, but it all depends on the individual. One thing i want you to remember, If you shower her with gifts in the beginning then there is the possibility that that will be something that she will expect later on as well (first impression). So its important i think to make it clear from the beginning and dare to say "no" when you feel its not the right thing to do.

What is it that she asks money for? I take it your from Europe/States and alot of people in Morocco(not all) have the impression that money grows on trees over here, and that is something u might want to make clear to her right from the getgo, unless of course money do grow on trees at ur place ...

My biggest advise to you, be moderate, do not shower her with gifts (especially not prior to marriage, unless of course its money for food etc), dare to say "no". If she is clever she will realize that the biggest gift for her is you InshAllah, and not the latest dress from Gucci etc.

Salaam Alaykom

Arwen

Good advice Jamal....sadly for some the latest dress from Gucci or whatever will always hold a big attraction.